As much as we hate to think about it, bullying can occur to anyone at anytime. It is hurtful. It is scary. It can take many forms – physical, verbal, emotional and on-line to name a few. What ever it is, it can have long lasting effects. Here we hope to give some practical advice on what to do.
Bullying occurs when an individual or group, verbally and/ or physically hurts another person who has done nothing wrong. Sadly, bullying is a common problem and can happen to anyone at any time. We know that people who bully others do so because they themselves feel insecure, unsettled or unhappy. Bullies pick on people to ‘project’ their bad feelings on to them in an attempt to resolve their own difficult emotions. This is a very unhealthy coping strategy and unfortunately can have many negative consequences for the victim, who themselves may begin to feel worthless, isolated, low in mood, low in confidence, anxious and angry.
No one deserves to be bullied and no one should have to put up with it. If you are experiencing bullying, you must tell someone – ignoring it will not make the problem go away. If you feel able to, tell you parents, carers or a trusted adult as they will be able to support you. If the bullying is happening in school, talk to your teacher or school nurse as schools have anti-bullying policies to protect their students. If the bullying is happening online, tell a trusted adult as they will be able to help you report abusive posts on social media.
Please do get in touch with the Cardiology Psychology and Counselling Service if you would like information, support or advice about bullying in relation to living with a heart condition: 0113 3926796 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm). You can also contact the National Bullying Helpline on 0845 2255787 or visit www.youngminds.org.uk for more information.